Knowing full well, that this idea would probably backfire on me, I would invite my “enemies” from the past. This includes people from childhood who only pretended to be friends, a couple of teachers who embarrassed me in front of the entire class every chance they had, two guys who claimed to love me but had manipulative, controlling and emotionally abusive ways of “showing their love”. And finally, I would invite a few former co-workers from my last two places of employment, who jointly bullied me, including my immediate supervisors.
Sometimes, distance and time can change your perspective on a situation or problematic encounter. My objective with this dinner invitation would be, to have a conversation with these mentioned people. I would (hopefully) calmy and politely ask them, why they did what they did to me at the time. Or what made them hate me so much? What did I do to them, to deserve such treatment? Especially from teachers and supervisors.
Not certain, that my guests would give me the time of day with regard to the uncomfortable topic of conversation, it would be most important for me to share with them how absolutely horrible they made me feel. I long to tell them how much of an impact these moments/situations/behaviors had on me, some of them still do to this present day. They really should know, and I deserve the chance to tell them. In theory this seems to be a good idea to find closure and make peace with the past. Reality would be quite a different story, especially if it doesn’t work out as imagined. Luckily I will never know.
Tag: Peace Of Mind
A-Z Challenge: Tidiness
“You are just too lazy to look for things!”
How many times was I told exactly that? I stopped counting, honestly. But that statement is correct. Why should I spend my time looking for things, when instead, I can return them to their designated place once I’m done using them? I do have to wonder why people always make this a topic of conversation with me. Why is it then? Are you a chaotic person, always in search for the things you need? Is it an ounce of jealousy perhaps, because I make a conscious choice, not to have this problem?
In all seriousness, however, tidiness is known to improve happiness, productivity, peace of mind and over all well being. So, if you can come up with one good reason, as to why I shouldn’t continue on with being too lazy to search for every tired boring thing, let’s have it. Good luck to you on finding one ๐
A-Z Challenge: Forgiveness
Throughout my time here on WordPress, I may have mentioned a time or twenty, that I’m not a fan of people. Clearly, I didn’t just wake up one morning with a made up mind. A few encounters in the past, let’s call them very unpleasant, had the majority to do with everything. Those people taught me painful lessons, no one cares to learn voluntarily. But, it’s water under the bridge now, and I do my best to ignore those dark spots in my otherwise coloful painting of life.
Once in a while I do have flashbacks of certain moments, and it requires conscious effort not to let anger or sadness take control of me. This is, where forgiveness comes into play. It is high time to forgive those women and men for their wrong-doing. Forgive them, not for their sake, but for my own peace of mind. This too, will be a process and I’m ready to take the first step.