Not at all, preferably. This nonchalant attitude towards holidays and celebrations began during my time in America. The family was thousands of miles away, traditions went out the window and holidays turned into a much appreciated day off, nothing more. Even now, back in Germany, I never got that spirit back. It may also be due to us never having been such a tight-knit family. Our get-togethers [more or less forced] are strenuous in the sense, that everyone is on their best behavior to get it over with as quickly and painlessly as possible. My mother’s son, his wife and I play nice to please my mom, basically. Now tell me honestly, would that evoke holiday spirit within you?
Category: Creative Writing
Trust No One
Life taught me a truckload of valuable, and rather painful lessons throughout the years. The most important one, that I wish I would have learned a lot earlier in life is…
…to trust no one.
In All Weathers
Running: I gladly leave that to small children and sports enthusiasts.
Walking: Ever since Lilly became a very much needed and welcomed part of my life, I walk three to four times every day with her, rain or shine.
No Leadership Here
Generally speaking no, not at all. Sometimes, I don’t necessarily make the best choices for myself. And the thought of other people having to suffer the consequences of my unfortunate decision making….let’s toss that idea into the bin right quick! I am grateful to all the women and men, who are willing to take on leadership roles, as well as the attached responsibility. Some people were born to lead, but I am clearly not one of them.
I’ve been given a leadership role [involuntarily!] at work a few times. The projects and tasks to be completed turned out okay, because I made everyone in my team feel equally valuable and responsible for the outcome. In my understanding I was hosting our meetings, rather than leading anyone.
Bright Red [And Still Nothing]
In hindsight, I’ve never been able to discern certain negative personality traits and behaviors as troublesome red flags, unless such conduct was so “painfully obvious”, that even a socially challenged, autistic person like me could recognize it. To this present day I misunderstand, or incorrectly judge other people’s intentions with me. That inability to clearly identify such red flags got me into unbecoming situations, or friend- and relationships more often, than I care to admit.
What I have instead, is my intuition. It was a bit of a learning process, to listen and place value into what that little whisper from within tried to warn me about. I’m sure that I missed out on meeting some truly nice people, because I ended up not giving them a chance. They might have turned into amazing friends, it is my loss. Sadly, after some of the experiences of the past, I prefer to steer clear of people, rather than ending up with the “wrong person” in my life one more time.
Sweet Ignorance – Kris O’Neil
Thanks for checking in, have a positive start to your week….Good night ๐ โ๏ฝกยฐโฉ
Morning Walkies
Have a lovely Sunday ๐โ
Old Fashioned?
I’m getting up there in age, and it is beginning to show. I would not call myself resistant to technical advancements or overall progress. But some things are better, the way I know them from childhood and being a young adult. Call me old fashioned? Perhaps. And if so, is that truly negative? I don’t think so, to be honest with you. Is it wrong to evaluate for yourself, whether or not the newest craze is everything it promises to be? And if indeed it isn’t, to steer clear of it? Is it wrong, if you choose not to “follow the herd” blindly? I think not.
To everyone, who prefers Netflix to DVDs, or Spotify to CDs and digital news formats to an actual newspaper [to name a few examples], both is fine and acceptable.
However, in my humble opinion, there is one disappointing “trend” on the horizon. More and more people have quite strong and increasingly negative reactions towards everyone, who is not going with the flow on every tired, boring new thing that tries to push its way into our lives and homes. That is, where the line needs to be drawn if you ask me. It’s not about being called old fashioned. Have at it, I don’t mind. But if the “old way” is becoming a frowned upon option, and you are criticized or even worse excluded, then I would call that a problem in need of address.
The current standard as well as modern advancements can peacefully co-exist, to service and include everyone according to preferences and needs. Perhaps it would be smart, to keep a close eye on how all of this develops from here onward.
And while I do try to find the positive in all these new technical advancements, it needs to be acceptable for everyone to evaluate, to pick and choose what’s right for them and what isn’t.
Old fashioned, the way I appear to be, I will continue to watch DVDs, and turn the pages of my paperback books. Even if they collect a little dust on the shelves, there’s just something satisfying and comforting about having the physical copy of the items you like. Am I wrong?
When You Least Expect It
Holding grudges? I’m disappointed to admit, that I am guilty of being bitter and feeling resentment for long periods of time in the past. Now, I’m trying to get over doing so. These negative feelings and such anger serve no purpose, other than making my own life more miserable than it needs to be. The people who’ve done me wrong won’t be affected by my holding grudges. Besides, karma keeps a close eye on every single one of us. Those ladies and gents on my sh!t list will be taught their lessons. The timing is not up to me, I just need to have a little faith ๐
If It Feels Right
Maybe a cozy cottage in the rolling hills of Scotland?
Perhaps a modern home somewhere in Denmark?
Or an old farmhouse surrounded by lavender fields in France?
Okay. Let’s ignore the fact, that money would be my very first and biggest hurdle, to ever make one of those examples a reality. Even if finances weren’t the issue, I can’t tell you with certainty, that either one of those lovely sounding choices above would actually be “my personal jackpot”. Why? Because just like most aspects of my life, if not all of them, I live and make decisions based upon how something makes me feel. Ridiculous? Probably. And yet, here we are. The house “that speaks to me” may well be a small, nondescript home somewhere in one of Germany’s northern regions. Or a tiny house in a well kept mobile-home-type-setup. Important is, that I immediately get a feeling of “yep, that’s the one”. Or I could picture myself being happy there before my inner eye. There would not be a shadow of doubt about the purchase. Such a positive and prompt response or feeling, would make any house, anywhere my ideal home, regardless of whether it was crafted from wood, brick or any other material and being any particular style.
Trivialities & Intricacies 
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